tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-742005770446300424.post9038880124394021933..comments2023-07-18T05:12:50.202-07:00Comments on Mothering Autism: Autism - Family Excerpt (Socialization)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-742005770446300424.post-39244487200349484452009-08-02T13:01:46.235-07:002009-08-02T13:01:46.235-07:00Love it, Judy! Thanks for sharing. If you don...Love it, Judy! Thanks for sharing. If you don't mind, I will do a follow-up with your technique (w/ full credit to you, of course). I'm on twitter now and the blog gets picked up through my twitter posts sometimes.<br />Thanks again.Press Doughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823482430271349738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-742005770446300424.post-76528594493700413482009-07-30T14:50:45.124-07:002009-07-30T14:50:45.124-07:00These situations are tough...I experienced a few o...These situations are tough...I experienced a few of the same while my grandson was here for three weeks and we went to the public pool each day. He likes to join in and play with other kids (he's 12) which is good, but although he can do it for awhile, he does not know when or how to stop. Kids started out splashing each other, but it soon turned in to 'taunting' my grandson 'to see if he will chase us'. I tried to stay out of it and see how it would play out, after speaking to the children about 'gentle playing' and letting them know he did not always understand. Most backed off a little, but one didn't. Finally had to intervene and 'steal' M, pulling him away from the kids and to deeper water, where he could calm down before moving into a full-blown melt-down. But what I like to do, and what I did on the playground as a teacher, too, is to model to the kids how to ask (my student or my grandson) to stop swinging so that he would actually do it...maybe like ask him if he would give them a turn in two minutes, etc. <br /><br />When I was teaching, I had developed a program of conflict resolution similar in nature to yours...T-A-L-K<br /><br />Take a deep breath and count to ten (or otherwise calm down)<br /><br />Agree to work it out.<br /><br />Listen to and UNDERSTAND the other's point of view (reflective listening)<br /><br />Keep it win-win.<br /><br />Developed a whole curriculum around it.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15059140864597091686noreply@blogger.com